Let Them Take Offense!
Seriously, I’m tired of reading posts by know-it-alls who claim that people don’t have the right to feel insulted, hurt and slighted. There’s a reason why the concept of feelings came into existence. It’s all relative and it varies from person to person. One person has no right to tell another that what he or she is genuinely feeling is WRONG. Each individual has a distinct set of values and standards that one uses to assess the value of each experience that he or she undergoes.
The members University of the Philippines Medical Alumni Society in America were among those in the firing line when the Desperate Housewives comments were aired. Along with other graduates of other Philippine medical schools, they were the ones who absorbed the brunt of the comment. Yes, the joke was on them and they didn’t quite appreciate the joke. These people worked hard to get into the United States. They met the high standards that the government and other regulatory set. Most of them probably have set up a very lucrative and productive practice in their locale.
Can you tell these people that they don’t have the right to feel offended and insulted? Seriously now. These are professionals who have worked all their adult lives to build their practice. No matter how you look at it, there is no way to justify the whole-sale defamation of an entire group of health professionals. There is no way to defend the idea of singling out the Philippines.
Yes, you could have said that it wasn’t a big issue. But telling people that they don’t have the right to feel insulted and offended? That’s just out of line.
People in the line of fire are very adamant about it. And you know what, THEY HAVE EVERY RIGHT TO BE.
Here’s one of the letters sent by one of the past Presidents of the UP MASA.
Bookmark at:Dear everyone:Â Â
The recent racial slur on Physicians from the Philippines is the most recent in the long line of comedic jokes and slurs on members of the Filipino community that will require the cooperation and help of every Filipino living in the United States if our progeny are to enjoy the full benefits of a democratic society.  Â
These slurs are meant to lower our self esteem, inflict emotional harm, lower our financial ability to earn a living, and separate Filipinos of all professional groups from the mainstream. A pointed remark to lower the professional standing of our professionals can not be allowed to pass without some commensurate punishment for devaluing our standing.
In essence, what has been poured over us like some material from the septic tank is an insult that has lowered our professional standing in the medical community and demeaned us in the eyes of our patients. This is a hate crime that has been perpetrated on us by the script writers and the Mr. Cherry who is the chief scriptwriter of the show. While we can be kind and attribute the joke as being made without meaning to offend, scripts are carefully made and tailored to meet the needs of the show either to increase the interest or to generate publicity to strengthen the show’s ability to draw more watchers and increase their Television ratings and increase advertising revenue. It cannot be said that this joke was an “off the cuff” joke, without its implications having been carefully manipulated to meet their needs. This indubitably meets the definition of a HATE CRIME inflicted upon a minority to cause emotional hurt and financial harm on physicians from the Philippines and other Filipino professionals in general.Â
We must examine our options and they may be the following:
1. Ask our lawyers to study the possibility of instituting a possible theory of law that racial slurs such as this may be called a Hate Crime and may be subject to criminal liabilities on their perpetrators, since they cause harm on groups of a racial minority. Such is the rational essence of the hate laws that have been passed by Federal and State legislatures. Such acts that are meant to harm (although non-violent) cause community cohesiveness.
2. Make a complaint with the Department of Justice, Civil Rights Department, of the racial slur and the harm it has inflicted on the medical professionals of the Philippines in particular and other professionals whose professional standing has been denigrated also, in general. We should ask the assistance of the Civil Liberties Union in this endeavor. All medical professionals from the Philippines should have a joint declaration of professional harm that has been done on their standing in the medical community and in the evaluation of their patients.
3. Networking with the NAFFA, JEWISH anti defamation LEAGUE AND OTHER ethic groups to establish legislative initiatives that such racial slurs can be classified as HATE crimes that can be subject to criminal and civil penalties on those inflicting them.
4. We should institute efforts to have a continuing body that works cooperatively with other ethnic groups to that the blessings of the United States fall equally on all inhabitants of the democratic society.Antonio Donesa ‘59
Past President, UPMASA National 1985-1987
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You know what? I wish the UPMASA did something about these before everyone else, especially those funny-but-not-in-a-good-way-funny bloggers did. Cos now it just seems blown out of proportion.
THIS. These. Pfffft.
Our medical professionals clearly have the right to feel insulted. But… seriously? Offensive jokes = hate crimes now? Isn’t that taking political correctness way too far? Jesus. This Donesa guy must be real fun at parties
Yes it was a ‘joke’ but in a undertone, it’s clearly an insult. Why can’t they see that? This is not something that we should just laugh about.
haha i visited reyna elena’s blog and from what I depicted, her blog entry is the complete opposite of yours. She was like implying that people does not have the right to take offense and be “self-righteous”
Which I find funny by the way.
She boasted that she has been through discrimination, that people who complain do not really experienced discrimination, that Filipinos, in one way or another, insulted their fellowmen.
Granted that no one is righteous, but I agree with you, it doesn’t mean just because he is not righteous, he does not have the right to take offense against DH. Just because nobody is perfect, they will just let this pass by and be passive about this.
I personally is hurt by the comment. I may not be a doctor, I may not be living in the U.S., I may have insulted someone in my life, but it won’t take away my Filipino pride.
And for the life of me, can someone please explain why DH singled out the Philippines? Can’t they just comment on their own products? That’s really something I WANT TO KNOW and HEAR FROM ABC.
I agree. Like I said, people have different beliefs and they’re entitled to it. One man’s loss doesn’t always mean it’s the loss of another. The comment was of course degrading to us, some people just deal with it in different ways right?
[...] Benj cites an indignation letter from the members University of the Philippines Medical Alumni Society [...]
I just read from a blog today that some of those “who are offended are now personally attacking those who were not”.
this statement is very unfair and untrue since they were the first one who called those who were offended as whining babies and onion-skinned. talking about one sidedness.
I just don’t get it anymore. are people these days not anymore capable of intellectual and reasonable argument? are people really stoned now? I wish.. and just wish that another discriminatory incident would happen and if these very same people would react, I dont want to be there when the laughter stops!
feelings are not debatable. even in hospitals, pain is subjective. why can’t they understand that? sheesh!
This issue is getting too far overblown. I swear, by next week, the blogosphere, in true ADHD fashion, all have another issue to pick at and this’ll soon be forgotten.
I think I just offended the ones afflicted with ADHD! OMG!
Well, our feelings belong to us. It is not wrong to own these feelings. Dealing with those feelings is a process in itself. If others had a contrary view from mine, I just try to understand where they are coming from. By next week, maybe this process is already over and we continue to go on to the next blogosphere issue. It is not because of we forgot about the issue. By then, emotions would have simmered down already especially if more construction actions have been undertaken.
@bluepanjeet,
(’tol! tau na lang ba ang tau sa pinoy blog world?! hahaha!) You must have read the same blog! I’ve been put by one link baiter under the column called “Retarded”, after a good number of bloggers called me “Onion-skinned”, “Ube-reactor”, etc., etc., etc.., that is - after somebody labeled me “Delusional”. I guess my opinions err… rants… err… whatever it is that I type on my keyboard hurts the shit out of them. I’d say, they kiss my shitty fil-american ass.
BUT LET ME GET BACK TO THE TOPIC:
Atheista,
I should have known you were posting an entry like this so I could have just referred my Reyna haters to your blog article! HAHAHA!
Love what you wrote!!!!
“I think I just offended the ones afflicted with ADHD! OMG!”
this is the kind of remark that I really loathe. Do you even know what the signs and symptoms of ADHD is? care to compare notes or exchange diagnosis?
you see ade, people like you are the ones that i hate to label, but i love to kick butt with my wits. simply because you take everything in the wrong perspective.
I dont want to call you retarded because its not my style to label people and i dont want to go down to your level just because you see yourself as someone who is wittier than the wisemen of congo. but the way you talk trash and call us by name, pare, that is really uncalled for.
I’m glad i have ADHD at least im on track with my mental age. I wont debate on someone whose emotional age is zero and the mental age is 1.
you started it, then let me finish it. just pray that i wont be your health care provider in the hospital. maliit lang ang mundo pare. and if you want this to stop, i suggest you keep your mum about people you dont really know or else, bring it on bud!
PS… Feeling moba pare sikat ka na kaya ang tingin mo sa amin papansin… look on the mirror and smell the coffee! baka bangungutin ka sa sobrang taas ng pangarap mo.
@ bluepajneet: Stop taking things too personally. And you complain that people call you onion-skinned. Geez.
Lighten up people! Everyone has the right to voice their opinions after all. I never said that nobody can’t get offended in the first place.
“i suggest you keep your mum about people you dont really know or else, bring it on bud!”
EKKKKK! nasa Mendiola na naman ba ako?! hehehe
- *awat* bluepanjeet *awat* ade -
ALAM NYO BA? FALL NA SA EAST COAST. hehehe
lumabas ako nag-kape, puro usuk! foggy evah evah! yun pala me awayan!
*tago*
@ Sharmaine:
I didn’t realize that you are here. You left me a message and I responded but you never returned. This is the very first time I am responding to an anonymous entry. There won’t be a next time because people with no IDs just want to ignite people. In any case, here’s my clarification (posted in my blog comments as answer to your comment):
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Sharmaine:
You can put your on your ID Sharmaine. We won’t attack you. I don’t like people leaving comments without ID’s but I’ll respond to you anyway.:
Let me be bluntly honest with you: I admire you for your comments because there’s not a lot of people like you. Some of those who disagree with me takes swipe and insults me on other blogs or behind my back and so I am not able to defend myself. Having said that, you should be commended, really. That was nice.
First: Me getting mad at people who disagree with me? You see these people na ginawa nang chat room ang blog ko? Puro ko kaaway yan dati. Here’s my record. Bluepanjeet disagreed with me. Chuva blasted me several times if he disagrees with my twisted opinions. Jon Limjap disagreed with me several times. There was a Senatoriable who was here who blasted the heck out of me. Kutz disagreed with me. Cat at some point disagreed with me and a number more who, interestingly, tingnan mo naman at naging regulars here and actually became my blogfriends. So, forget about that. Just don’t hit from the behind or hitting me for some ulterior motives. The fact that you were straight-faced about it and not a coward is commendable and there’s no reason in the world why I should be mad at you. I get pissed at self-righteous people who link-baits me for some traffic or readership or who maligns me behind my back and calling their minions to attack me. That’s cowardice. That’s backstabbing. Those tactics are not fair because I am not able to defend myself.
Second: The issue is not about me disliking bloggers/people to comment and/or react negatively. Can you imagine if all Pinoy blogs have just one opinion? We’d all be blogging live from Pyongyang!
The issue I raised here is completely different. Pinoy bloggers and “professionals†charged and called us (Filipinos who reside in the US) as onion-skinned people and other demeaning words because of our reaction to the DH issue. That’s a lot of insensitivity!
My point is – have they had the chance to live in the US, work in a multi-cultural environment, feel how it is to be discriminated here, get to know and understand the mentality of the people here, I believe the harshness and tone will change. It’s different if you’re from the outside looking in than if you’re smack in the middle of it, and worst if you’re a part of the experience, you know what I mean? Put in a different sentence, I’m sure if you were discriminated against, your perspective will be more sensitive to your fellow Filipinos who are on the frontline. I hope I was clear.
Third: “but I do not agree with you.†Having clarified my position – You actually agree with me. Agree?
Let them take offense, but at the right offenders.
The real culprits are the commercial review centers and corrupt govt regulators responsible for that nursing exam leak scandal. They were the ones that damaged the reputation of ofw health care workers, now the Fil-Am medical community is paying for it.
One thing about Americans though, they accept people into the mainstream who are “good sports” and can take racial slurs with aplomb. Because it IS a meritocracy, and Filipinos have long ago proven their real worth.
And let’s not lose sight of the log in our own eye, called Miriam Defensor Santiago, who surely is more representative of filipinos than teri hatcher is of americans.
When I first heard about this issue and saw the clip, the first thought I had was “What’s wrong with the Phil Med school?” I think the writer was trying to reffer with the recent bar exams cheating but he didn’t do much research and just generalized the Phil Med school instead.
I’m not in the medial profession but looking at it from their vantage point, it’s a stab to their credibility and profession. That generalization isn’t warrant and is untrue so the show producers should really correct that. Those who felt that we are over reacting should think twice
[...]Maybe a public apology is called for. But the cries of racism; the negative attacks on the writers and the actors of the show, civilized or otherwise; The banning of the airing of the show here in the Philippines; the various groups condemning the show. Are they really necessary? When is reacting overreacting already?[...]
Hi Benj,
I think “having the right to be offended” is one thing but crying “racism” is too much. I personally think that the comment was too mild to raise hell over. When we say it’s racism, we are in fact, raising the stakes unnecessarily. The network apologized. I think that’s enough. More importantly, we need to take these things as a challenge to look within and see if it has some basis in fact. What I don’t agree with is that the comment is supposedly a racial slur, when it’s not. It must be viewed in the context that DepEd and our PRC need to straighten their act and be stricter in granting licenses and eadministering licensure examinations in ANY field. To give you a very subjective example, my boss has a friend who could not enter medical school in Tokyo so what do you think he did? He went to the Philippines! The impression is that it’s easier to get through medical schools in Manila than in Tokyo, which his friend purportedly proved. Is the view unfair and invalid? Arguable. I can easily replace the medical field with another and it will not lose it’s intended effect.
cheers!
TonyB
I wasn’t strongly offended when I heard about the DH scene (from a friend’s blog), but I guess that’s only because of where I’m coming from. I always thought DH was too stupid a show to raise hell over…
Anyway, that was a nicely-written letter from Mr. Donesa… But hate crime? That’s taking it too far. If the arguments are getting this much, it only means it’s time to reel it in a bit people.
They have every right to complain, but I’d like to add another point to this issue: isn’t it the Filipino taxpayer who pays for U.P. tuition? This refers not only to those who submit ITRs but anyone, rich or poor, who has to pay all sorts of taxes voluntarily or not, including taxes on gasoline, food products, and so on.
One medical group reports that in the next few years the country will experience a major health crisis due to shortages in doctors and nurses and lack of funding for public health care. As it is, numbers are already pretty grim and more professionals are leaving for work abroad.
As more doctors and nurses leave, who will take care of Filipinos who remain?